Sunday, March 20, 2016

Maxine Marsolini and "Mother's Fury: Releasing the Trauma of Childhood Abuse"



We're happy to have Maxine Marsolini with us talking about her book, Mother's Fury: Releasing the Trauma of Childhood Abuse.

What would you like readers to take away from your book?
You are worthy of love and are lovable—God says so. You are created in God’s image and His love is always good. God cares deeply for those who suffer harm at the hand of a furious parent. Child abuse is always wrong. Charles Rice, whose story this book is based upon, did not deserve what happened to him as a small boy and later as a teen; neither did/do you. Only in releasing the trauma brought on by yesterday’s wounds, will you find fresh joy. The past need not define your future because all of your tomorrows can be built on God’s truths and His good purposes for your life. Perhaps you will be used to help put an end to the repetitive cycle of child abuse.
Statistics reveal those who were abused as children are 1,000 times more likely to abuse. I believe that pattern can be stopped if abuse victims choose to step out from behind the frightening memories, liberate their own story, and open the door to a free and bright tomorrow.
God can change the abuser, too. He also loves the abuser but not her harmful behaviors. When the pain that’s been inflicted on her child is admitted, this parent is ready to seek help to acquire positive parenting skills. Yes, I know it takes courage to change. But when godly principles are discovered and put into practice, it is possible to tear down generational cycles of abuse—one family at a time.   

Why did you choose to write this book?
Mothers who abuse are a subject that isn’t often talked about. People generally believe a mother loves and would not harm her child. There is a fear of telling this shameful secret.

What did you learn while writing this book? 
Childhood memories follow us throughout life. Early developmental years are absolutely foundational to a child’s well-being. When proper nurturing is absent, and abuse is the normal pattern, home is not a safe place. It is a place of fear and dread where abusive parents scar young, innocent lives. Later, in adulthood, unless healing for damaged emotions is sought, yesterday’s wrongs will likely continue to hurt others.   

What are your favorite writing conferences and why? 
Oregon Christian Writers www.oregonchristianwriters.org put on 3 one-day conferences each year and a four-day summer conference where the top-notch keynote presenters are brought in, great workshops on the craft of writing, and plenty of networking and mentoring opportunities. A plus the summer conference gives writers the ability to schedule appointments with editors, agents, and publishers in hopes of selling their manuscript. Many do.
Faith and Culture Writers Conference http://faithandculturewriters.com/ is full of great workshops and mentoring.
CLASS seminars, Christian Leaders and Speakers Services, http://classeminars.org is another favorite of mine. Many experts from the field of writing are here along with amazing workshops. This conference ties writing and speaking together well.
The Orange County Christian Writers Conference http://www.occwf.org ranks among my favorites, too. There are too many to list and most offer encouragement and helps to move craft and publication for writers forward.

Why do you write?
I’m wired that way. Writing is a creative outlet where words validate life’s greatest pleasures and deepest pains.

Tell us a little more about yourself, with three things not many people know about you. 
I grew up in the country with lots of animals. There were lazy summers with blackberries fresh from the bushes. It’s hard to get that taste out of my mind (and that’s ok).
My parents divorced when I was 16 and my mother moved away. This began a time of big changes for our family. 
I’ll always remember the day I said yes to Jesus. I was 33 years old that year. My love for His Word became unstoppable.

Do you listen to music when you write and if so, what kind of music – or do you find it distracts you? 
I don’t listen to music when I write. I can easily get absorbed in thoughts of how to craft words onto pages.

What do you do for fun when not writing?
I take walks, study God’s word, make time for friends and enjoy new adventures with family.

Tell us about your latest release and what you think readers will enjoy about it. 
My latest release is Mother’s Fury: Releasing the Trauma of Childhood Abuse.
I am excited about this book because it brings God’s love to the forefront. This book has both the power to set the abused free from a painful childhood and the abuser on a path to positive parenting. It holds the potential to bring reconciliation to broken relationships. I hope with all my heart that Mother’s Fury is used to help stop the terrible wrong of child abuse.

If you could spend an hour with anyone dead or living, who would it be? 
Brennan Manning. He understood the amazing story of God’s grace. Manning showed others how very much God loves them. There is nothing better than grabbing hold of that precious, free-for-the-asking, gift.

What is your personal definition of success?
My view of success isn’t defined by money or fame. Rather, success comes when I know I am about the work God has prepared for me to do. When I see changed lives, and people begin to reach for their God-given potential, I feel good about what I am doing.   

How can readers get in contact with you? (mail, email, website) 
Readers can find me at Rebuilding Families, www.rebuildingfamilies.net and then use the contact tab. Or on Facebook: MaxineMarsolini.Author