Sunday, April 26, 2015

Paula Mowery's offers come words of encouragement on infertility...


“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves received from God. For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows.” 2 Corinthians 1:3-5 NIV

These verses from Second Corinthians have become real to me over the years. As a young wife I wanted children, and when my husband and I decided to try to start our family, I was glad. But, that gladness soon turned to despair and even depression when I learned about my infertility issues.

Every month I didn’t receive a positive pregnancy test, I sank lower into bitterness. My friends and family would announce their happy news of expecting, but I would run to a corner to lash out in angry tears. 

At a low point, I began to realize that no matter the struggle, God loved me and truly was the God of compassion.  The first verse above says that he comforts us in all of our troubles. I often forgot that fact and sank into my pit again.

The biggest lesson for me to grasp was that I am not in control and my timing isn’t God’s timing. Do I ever truly cling to these truths? Probably not, though I should from experience.

Through several painful tests and interventions, I finally did conceive and have a daughter. However, some of the same bitterness returned when I tried to conceive again and failed. At this time I stepped back and asked myself, “Why are you trying to play God again?”

Other women struggling with infertility started coming into my sphere of influence. This is also the same time I discovered the Second Corinthians passage, knowing what God was calling me to do. He had comforted me, now my job was to in turn comfort these other women. Who else could truly understand their plight like another sister who had been there?

About a year ago, God led me to five other women who were ready to share their infertility struggles in hopes of helping other women. I joined them and what came from those stories was a devotional book called A Walk in the Valley. I am so excited to share this resource with women in this infertility dilemma.

I was honest with my co-authors when I said toward the end of our writing and editing that I wished I could have had a resource such as this one when I was going through my infertility struggle. The devotional contains all of our stories – the good, the bad, and the ugly. We share scripture and even questions to ponder and write about at the end of each entry.

If you or someone you love is going through an infertility fight, please check out this resource. Know that we, the authors, are passing on the comfort our Heavenly Father gave to us that it might overflow to you through Christ.

Paula is a pastor’s wife, mom to a college student, author, acquiring editor, and speaker. No matter the hat she wears, she strives to honor God’s plan even if it means going out on a limb and leaving comfort zones. Reviewers have characterized her writing as “thundering with emotion.” Her book, Be The Blessing, won the 2014 Selah Award in the novella category. Paula enjoys reading and reviewing Christian fiction, writing Christian romance and devotionals, and helping other authors realize their dream of publication.  

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Everyone's journey through infertility is different. Even women who have the same physical problems will have different courses of treatment, different responses, and different emotional ups and downs as they walk this path. But we also have so much in common: the hurt, anger, frustration, pain, sorrow, hope and joy that we have experienced along the way. We are women who have experienced infertility. Some of us have gone on to conceive, others have adopted, and others remain childless. All of us have found peace in the loving arms of our Father God at the end of our journey. We want to share our experiences and thoughts with you. It is our hope and prayer that you'll be encouraged. This devotional workbook starts with how each woman discovered her infertility, then explores the diagnostic testing pursued, how they processed the official diagnosis, what decisions had to be explored regarding treatment, their experiences during infertility treatment (including pregnancy, miscarriage, and childbirth), and finishes with their experiences in remaining childless, adoption, foster care, child sponsorship, and the emotional healing regardless of the outcome of their infertility journey. Each devotional has a Scripture focus and questions for thought and discussion.